Guest Post: CombatBabe Takes a Bullet.

Please welcome my guest blogger, CombatBabe!  Open up to her, enjoy her bewitching voice, and give her a heaping serving of rawr-love!

Someone must have liquored Rara up when she included me in her guest post email. My writing style, as you may or may not see depending if Rara is sober now, is very different. When I chose the name CombatBabe, I didn’t know exactly how fitting it was until I let the blog bloom on it’s own over the last 4 months. When I first started to inform people that I was an acquired taste, I also discovered how very true that was. Rarely am I humorous without being prompted and that’s what scared me the most being featured on Rara’s wonderful, magnificent blog. Though, if I were a comedian and you were perusing stand-up on Netflix, you’d wonder if I really was worth watching. I’m a very B-side, stripped down version (read: really not all that much alike) of Margaret Cho, Whitney Cummings, and Lisa Lampanelli minus the political rants and ability to stand in front of an audience and make them laugh. I’m combative, opinionated, stubborn and have the slightest tendency to maybe sometimes think I’m right all of the time… I can also be vulgar. I have noticed I toned it down over the last month because I was getting angry feedback, but I also noticed my stats have dropped. Coincidence? Maybe. Without further ado, Rara asked…

What is something you believe, justified or not, that has never steered you wrong?

I have always believed in mind over matter. Not so much in the logical way of thinking about it, more like we can mindfully control our experiences and outcomes on stressful situations, and if you tell yourself you are not feeling any physical pain, you can make your body believe you. I have an example, fret not.


My friend’s 20 month old daughter has a rare congenital heart defect. She has already had 2 open heart surgeries and she’ll be due for another when she is 3 years old. The gist of the condition is the right side of the heart never developed. The underdevelopment of the left side of the heart is more common. So Emma, the baby, had an appointment with her specialized pediatric cardiologist and Brittany was having extreme anxiety. Emma has been experiencing shortness of breath, nosebleeds and getting sick more often than usual so Brittany was sure they were going to bump up the next surgery, or even worse have to go in right then and there. She was also very stressed because every single time without fail Emma freaks the hell out at these appointments. She goes in for pulse ox, blood pressure for both upper and lower body, and a couple other checks then the gets the fun part of having to lay down while they take sonogram pictures and sound clips of her heart.

In my heart, if you truly believe something positive is going to happen, it will. If it doesn’t it wasn’t meant to, but a lot of the time it has worked for me. The appointment went so smoothly Brittany was amazed. Emma didn’t freak out, nor did she cry and we have another year before she has to have her next surgery. The nosebleeds are due to the aspirin which unfortunately at this time cannot be taken away or reduced in dose. Her fever earlier this month wasn’t too high to be a cause of concern. And the shortness of breath when doing activity is normal and something Brittany and family will have to be used to because it’s the nature of the beast.

When it comes to pain, my headache may never let up, but I find comfort in telling myself it’s not as excruciating as it is. There’s a bullet in my arm? I seriously thought I just bumped into a sharp corner.


Now that you love CombatBabe as much as I do, check out her awesome blog for brilliantly executed truth and honest humor.   If I were you, I’d start here:


  1. I think that you are way too hard on yourself. This was great writing and I can’t wait to read more. Besides being talented you showed a great attitude toward life: “In my heart, if you truly believe something positive is going to happen, it will. If it doesn’t, it wasn’t meant to” – That is a fantastic attitude and one I want to know more about. Thanks for writing this and thanks to Rara for putting your guest post out there. Very grateful for your contribution.


    1. Unfortunately, I am not that cool. Though it has always been my dream to be like 50 Cents so I, too, could brag how many times I’ve been shot.


      1. I remember a time when 50 Cent was my role model, wait…nevermind. That never happened. I was thinking of that one time I listened to a 50 Cent song and thought, “OMG WTF is this crap???”


        1. I know, that Candy Shop song is the illest… seriously, I get a little bile in the back of my throat when I happen upon it.


            1. So then instead of being twins separated AT birth, we could be twins separated BY birth. Man, too bad Oprah retired. We would’ve been her best show.


                1. Ellen!!! Ellen would love us!! You are sooo smart I could squish ya.

                  Though how can you not like Oprah when she always gave so much away like, “Hey everybody, you’re getting a CAR!” Whole audience. Bam! New car. Not that I’m greedy or anything, it’s just hard for me to dislike generosity, unless it’s with malcontent.


                    1. Oh. It’s cool. I only watch Grey’s Anatomy. I can’t really do too much TV. I always get the feeling I could be doing something else.


                    2. I think the way hospitals are run anyway is shitty. In fact there is one near by that finally is getting their ER doors shut shortly after they lost their OB floor. They are pissed, but it’s for the better.


  2. I think I am the opposite, I believe in matter over mind, but I am one of those logical, left brainy people for the most part. I wish I could find some balance between the two sides, though I think I am making good (slow) progress.


    1. Who’s to say which way is the right way? One of my favorite quotes of Buddha is, “Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense.” – Buddha


  3. Great attitude! I work as a registered nurse and they have actually done quite a few studies demonstrating the incredible powers of mind over matter and having worked in the hospital I have witnessed these unfold first hand. Take for example couples: on average spouses die two years apart from each other. In other words, you can actually die from a broken heart. For this reason, I feel as if your friends daughter has some really great chances with a heart so full of the love of friends and family. Sounds cheesy, but it’s true.


    1. You know what? I am going to share this with my friend. I think you’re onto something with Emma coming so far because of having such a loving family. Her grandmother is also a registered nurse and another reason my friend Brittany was stressed; they had to bump the appointment up and her mom couldn’t get out of work for it. I was the official stand-in. 🙂


  4. An interesting perspective. Positive thinking is a fine thing, as long as you remember that it only goes so far. Sometimes, people — children, adults, old people, everyone — needs sympathy and comfort. A posiive attitude can’t conquer all pain and can make people who are suffering feel that they aren’t allowed to admit it. Just something to think about.


    1. I have been dealing with a stomach bug and probably wasting away since Sunday. You can bet your bottom dollar everyone who’s been within earshot of me has heard about it. This is not about not giving sympathy to those in pain or discomfort. This is about believing that something you think is going to go terribly wrong will not go wrong. If it goes wrong, it was meant to. But in my belief, if you believe the sky will not fall as equally as you believe black is black and red is red, then your chances of doom are diminished. The proof is in the pudding on this one.


  5. I think I enjoyed your exchange with twindaddy almost as much as the post. You CAN be very funny. This was a great post. I have a book over Mind / Body connections and it’s amazing how that works. Are you sick because you were depressed so long or depressed because you were sick so long?

    P.S. I like your controversial posts, especially when you respond to inane comments. So much fun!


    1. That’s like the chicken or the egg… hmm very philosophical.

      R.P.S. I’m glad you enjoy them as much as I do. 😉



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