I asked for a love letter.

Looking towards the future!
The weekend where you earned your stripes as a brother, for all of my five siblings. There we were– looking towards the future!

Dear Dave,

Last night, I asked for a love letter in honor of Love Note day– today, September 26th.  You are a writer and a romantic, so I didn’t think this would be a problem at all.

You didn’t write one.

I saw you thinking about it when you were doing a last minute load of laundry for me at midnight.  You made a joke about it just a few hours later, when finishing up the dishes I forgot to wash again.

I wasn’t feeling too well, so you tucked me in bed.  You cared for our cats, wrote out a grocery list, set the alarm so I wouldn’t be frantic in the morning, and put on a movie for us to watch together.  I know you were looking forward to scary movies, but you opted for something that would make me laugh instead.

Before falling asleep, I asked again if you were going to write a love letter for me, and you said probably not– but you’re a writer and a romantic.  I still expected one.

That time you stayed up for three days to help me finish a project.
That time you stayed up for three days to help me finish a project.

We woke up early and drove up to my sister’s house.  It’s a long drive, on your least favorite freeway, and you wouldn’t have had to go along at all if I could drive.  It was hot, and our carefully planned meal schedule was disrupted for the trip, so you weren’t feeling your best.  You didn’t say anything, though, when I sang along to all the songs at full volume.

I asked if you had started the love letter and you said no.  I reminded you that love letters are how people know that someone loves them and we continued that conversation into my sister’s house, where I was supposed to babysit.

HowWeRoll
The time I was too sick to leave the house, and you made pretend that we were doing it on purpose.

I ended up needing to work, and you watched two very young girls for several hours straight.  Every time I looked up from my project, you were giving piggy back rides, learning ballet moves, picking noodles and cheerios off the floor, and singing the theme song to Doc McStuffins.    Our niece wrapped her arms around your neck and professed her love for you.

When you told her that you loved her too, she asked why.  You and I exchanged a look and laughed because I had been asking you a similar question all day.  You told her it was because she was so thoughtful, which is the perfect answer to give a 3-year-old girl.

Vegas
The time you stood in line for hours to get me into the show I wanted to see.

It was late before you ate, and later before we made it home.  You rested on the bed for just a moment and then our cat became sick.  You stood up to take care of the mess because that’s what you do.  You stand up, and you take care of things.

I asked for a love letter, and you never did write one, but I want you to know– I received it.

It was a love letter written with action, patience, and sacrifice.  It is not the type of letter that will make it into a textbook or a best seller’s list, but it will stand the test of time.  It is not the type of letter that someone else could read, as it is written in the language of nuances that are important to us.

Nearly 7 Years Ago
The time we made the most important vows of our life. It was a last minute shindig, assembled a month earlier than our planned wedding date because my family was difficult to schedule.

I lived your love letter today– as I do every day.

It’s how I know you love me.

I hope you remember that I always notice every little thing you to do make my life easy, happy, and safe.  In a manner of speaking, me noticing these things is my love letter to you.

And though I am not much of a writer, and even less of a romantic, I hope you are able to read mine as clearly as I read yours.

With everlasting love,
Rara

_________________________________________________

* Update, my husband left a comment on this post with a love letter to me after all.  I really did know he would.

Weekly Writing Challenge: http://dailypost.wordpress.com/2013/09/23/weekly-writing-challenge-events/

Prompts for the Promptless: https://thequeencreative.wordpress.com/2013/09/24/forthepromptless-s-3-e-8-love-notes/

This week’s cast (so far!):

120 thoughts on “I asked for a love letter.

  1. This is so lovely! As Dave did more and more things to help you out, I soon realised that all of this was his love letter to you, as you said at the end.
    The best love letter of all 🙂

    Like

    1. 🙂 It really is the best love letter. It’s wonderful to know he can write me the big grandiose letter, but it’s the little things that keep me smiling. 🙂 Thanks for reading, Drali!

      Like

  2. That’s so sweet. I’ve got tears in my eyes.

    Garry is a writer too, but he never writes letters. Except when I was in Israel, he wrote me almost every day for 9 years. Every one of those letters was a love letter even though they were about whatever he was doing that day. Since I came back, he has never written a letter to anyone. But every time he does the laundry, washes the dishes, goes to the grocery store, or a million other little things … they are all love letters. Sometimes not only do actions speak louder than words, they speak far more eloquently. This was a great prompt 🙂

    Like

    1. That’s so wonderful that he wrote so much over a 9 year period! So, so sweet. 🙂

      I really enjoyed the prompt too– everyone’s entries have been heart-warming and/or clever. 🙂

      Like

  3. Ok, that was pretty great. Just the right amount of sap and tender feelings to make me slightly uncomfortable, as any great love letter must have. It’s funny cause I have no problem to write my own love letter but reading someone else’s, I feel like I’m looking where I’m not supposed to be looking.

    Like

  4. Dear Rara,
    Greetings from space. I’ve been stranded here for some time due to a miscalculation (you know my mathematical mind is in a milky way). It’s embarrassing to admit that I didn’t account for the rocket fuel home. But that is the least of my problems. Standing here now, outside my ship I now realize that this star is much bigger in person. I had dearly hoped to bring you something unique and may have over done myself by vowing to bring you the stars from the sky. I can’t even move this one. In all my planning and designing of this ship I over looked this single detail. I should have notice while getting my degrees in astrophysics, engineering and deep space travel that stars are suns and suns are big. And maybe I can forgive myself that as I was distracted creating the first faster than light drive. What I can’t forgive is that I built this entire ship by hand, in secret, and now you may never know that I went out only for a second so I could bring you back a surprise.
    I think next time I’ll stick with a love note.

    Love,
    Your husband

    Liked by 4 people

    1. Haha, I’m not a subtle person by any means. If I want a compliment, I ask for one. If I want a gift, I ask for one. If I need a date night, I set it up. If I don’t feel special, I tell him to fix it. 😉 I find that people are better friends when they know exactly what you need. 😀 31 years!! That’s sooo sweet and lovely… and so was your post!

      Like

  5. Funny you wrote that his actions were his love letter to you, before I even read that I was thinking the same thing. Btw,is nice to put a face to a name.:)

    Like

    1. Actions are the best kind of love letter, even though they’re not the msot obvious. 😀 And yep, that’s us. Not looking our best, admittedly, since those were all from exceptionally long weeks… but it’s the gist of us. 😀

      Like

    1. Haha, thanks Linda. I’m an alright writer… but Dave is definitely wearing off on me in the romantic department. I even remember anniversaries now! 🙂

      Like

  6. I think I just fell in love with Dave. What a hero. That’s what I call Don. Frequently. Like your Dave, he’s my hero, for many of the same reasons.
    Your love letter have me all choked up – in a good way
    xoxox

    Like

    1. I like to think love in action is all around! 🙂 It’s just hard to read, and so often people act in a way that is meaningful to themselves rather than the ones they love. It’s like saying I love you in a native language that your spouse doesn’t understand. As you would say… I give ’em half credit, haha. 😀 Thanks for reading!

      Like

  7. I gave my wife a love letter once – it was “Q”.
    Don’t laugh – it gave her a triple word score and cost me the game! 😀
    And it’s just as well he didn’t manage to retrieve that star. The spark of your spirit is already blindingly brilliant! (Yeah, I can really shovel the …. words. 😉 )
    Great work – both of you!

    Like

    1. Oh man, that’s the sort of love letter that would have me doing the happy dance, 😀 Triple word score and a win?! That’s lovely. Dave always kicks my butt in scrabble, even though my vocabulary is leagues better than his. Drat! 🙂

      And… awwww!! *blush* You are awesome, John. I’m so glad to see you running about again. We missed you.

      Like

  8. Two of the best love letters I have ever “read.” In some egotistical way, I am thrilled that I got to experience part of this love letter. I got to see the loving smiles that Dave put on your beautiful nieces’ faces. I agree with Alison above, you guys are my heroes. {{{hugs}}} Kozo

    Like

    1. You did! You also got to experience the marker that ended up all over the younger one’s face, haha! 🙂 He’s learning the rules of child care– such as, “If you blink, they will eat something weird.” Thanks for reading, Kozo! *hugs*

      Like

    1. 😀 Thank you! Also, I just have to say– I love your gravatar picture. Your smile is so wonderful that I smile back at my screen whenever I see it. 🙂

      Like

  9. My Cocoa Pebbles were especially soggy this morning, as I read this over my cereal. It was no less touching when I reread it this evening. It takes a special person with exceptional vision to read what isn’t written–it is a trait that can be nurtured (credit to your family, I’m sure), but I’m not sure it can be taught if the seeds aren’t already there. How lucky that you and Dave understand and appreciate each other’s love letters so well!

    Like

    1. 😀 Thank you, how kind! Yes, we’re incredibly lucky… and whenever one of us forgets that, the other quickly reminds us, haha! 😀 Thank you for reading!

      Like

    1. 🙂 I wasn’t at all surprised to see the love note from him in my comments. He’s a writer, and a romantic– and probably because of those things– has no sense of time. 😀 Thanks, Anyes. *hugs*

      Like

  10. I’ve been having some personal issues lately, going to weird places in my mind with my boyfriend. Though I haven’t asked him to write me a love letter, I have asked him nearly every day if he still loves me (poor guy). But lately, I’ve come to the realization that he does love me. Much like your husband has done, he shows me with every little step that he is there for me. I think it is interesting that I read your post the day that my wandering mind finally comes around to the truth about my boyfriend’s feelings for me.

    Like

    1. That’s the universe for you! Putting reminders in your way to affirm your good decisions and to snap you back into shape if you made the wrong one, 🙂 I’m glad to have been part of your universe’s guidance! Thanks for reading, Nelly! 🙂 (And *hugs*, I totally understand that place you came from– it’s a lonely zone. I’m glad you’re practicing action literacy… it really helps. 🙂 )

      Like

  11. Hey,, I feel so happy reading this love letter written by Dave. The pictures the love you both have for each other and it has been cultivated over the years. Wishing both of you unlimited happiness.
    Cheerio

    Like

Rawr?

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s