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If you are a parent and a blogger, and you somehow manage to find time to actually blog– I salute you.

youre-awesome

I spent just a little over 16 hours babysitting, and I’ve been too knocked out to even turn on my computer, let alone blog something.

tired

When I finally decided to crawl out of bed like a sloth version of King Kong trying to scale a building, I realized that my long slothy arms couldn’t catch any words.

Sloth Kong decides to take a nap.
Sloth Kong decides to take a nap.

I finally decided to just finish a post I had already started.  Easy, right?  My post about my Johari Window calls only for a few made up words, and a couple of graphics.  In other words, it’s 90% finished.  I told myself– just think of a made up word.  You can do this.  Think.

Fraggle!! No wait. That's a species.
Fraggle!! No wait. That’s a species.
Bilbo??! No wait, that's a name.
Bilbo??! No wait, that’s a name.
Sippy? No, no, that's the thing that the entire universe revolves around.
Sippy? No, no, that’s the thing that the entire universe revolves around.

My nieces are actually quite well-behaved.  They sit when you say sit.  They dance if you put on any music.  They laugh at pretty much any joke.   Still, it’s as if when I am around them– the entire proportions of the world change.

The four carpeted steps from my sister's living room to kitchen eventually start to feel like a climb like this.
The four carpeted steps from my sister’s living room to kitchen eventually start to feel like a climb like this.
Simply walking around the room, carrying one of them, feels like when I was a kid and pretended to walk on the moon. Onnnnneeeee slloooowww steeeep.
Simply walking around the room, carrying one of them, feels like when I was a kid and pretended to walk on the moon. Onnnnneeeee slloooowww steeeep.
Picking up markers before someone paints their face or eats them makes me feel like a superhero with psychic powers.
Picking up markers before someone paints their face or eats them makes me feel like a superhero with psychic powers.

The nice part is that all that dramatized living turns me into a sort of hero. Right now, I completely identify with the self-satisfied, dazed smile of Buffy in the final episode.

buffy

Of course I’ve babysat before. I’ve been babysitting my whole life, in fact– and learning to live without a little one running around was one of the biggest adjustments I had to make in my married life.

This time was different only because I decided to do it without caffeine.

Why?

No wait, that doesn't make sense.
No wait, that doesn’t make sense.
No... I'm pretty sure science loves coffee.
No… I’m pretty sure science loves coffee.
There. That's better.
There. That’s better.

There you have it.  In summary, my friends:

Go away, chicken. We're done with that schtick now.
Go away, chicken. We’re done with that schtick now.

As I was saying– in summary, I leave you with these two thoughts.

1. This is me.

RAWRNIMAL NEED.
RAWRNIMAL NEED.

2. This is you.

I don't really understand it either, but Google swears it's the most amazing thing in the world. The point is -- I salute you, for blogging in the midst of parenting, school, illness, and all other stuff that takes up way more time than people might guess.
I don’t really understand it either, but Google swears it’s the most amazing thing in the world. The point is — I salute you, for blogging in the midst of parenting, school, illness, and all other stuff that takes up way more time than people might guess. You are awesome and inspiring.

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I can smell brewed coffee because my husband is a saint– so instead of leaving you with a question like normal, I’m going to rush through this and simply put a question mark at the end of this thought– and suggest that maybe this time, you ask me a question?

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  1. Rara, IT IS the most amazing thing the world. GOOGLE IS THE LAW.

    I worship random things out of boredom. Don’t you hate when that happens though? Just need to finish the post and it works itself out of an already tenuous grasp? Happens to me everyday.

    Coffee.

    I never have anything meaningful to add. :/

    Question: why would you ever do anything without caffeine…on purpose?

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    1. Meaningful schmeaningful. 😀 Comments are my favorite part of blogging, and I stink at leaving them… so I don’t judge. You could just say “Apples!” and I’d be happy to reply. 😉

      As to the coffee, it started as just an accident– and then morphed into a “well, I already haven’t had any, so no need to go out and buy some.” mind trap. It turns out that there is need. Duly noted for next time, haha. 😀

      Thanks for reading, Sahm!

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    1. Haha! Well, since I’m willing to answer most any question at any time, I suppose it’s not your one big chance… 😉 At least we both couldn’t think of a question, phew. I’m in good company. 😀

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    1. Oh man, never! When I babysit boys (and some of my more adorably rambunctious girls), I show up doubly caffeinated– and armed with water balloons and spiderman bandaids. With 27 godkids and 8 nieces/nephews, I always warn the little ones going in– it ain’t my first rodeo. 😀

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    1. It is pretty unnverving to see someone smile in their sleep! 😀 Although random people stumbling upon you in your sleep would also be pretty unnerving, so let’s just hope it doesn’t end up being an issue at all, haha! 😀 Thank you for reading and smiling!! xo!

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  2. LOL this is amazing… I have a toddler, & I do it without coffee…
    Working on one of my latest posts, “Nightless Day”… Almost no sleep each night…
    I might not even actually be writing this comment, more like sleep-writing…

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    1. 🙂 Groggy, and sore– but happy. The car ride up to my sister’s is an hour or so, and since Dave and I go technology-free on drives– we talked till my voice is nearly gone. I think we came up with a solution for solving the way people think about e-books– so yay! 😀 I also wrote about a million posts in my head and I hope that when my brain recovers, I’ll remember everything. 🙂 It’s all foggy in Cali this week, so my lungs are killing me (figuratively, thank goodness), but other than that soreness– it was nice to spend so much time just doing family stuff and theoretical-thinking stuff. 🙂

      Now that I gave you the long-answer, it’s your turn, 😀 Has the pain eased up any? How are you feeling today? xo!

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      1. I’m glad to hear that you are happy but hope the soreness and grogginess ease up soon. Whoop re the posts to come and your enlightenment on the journey.

        Me, first off, thanks for asking. I had a phone call from my consultant to say the chest pain was caused by seronegative spondyloarthritis which swell joints and tendons.

        I’m still in pain but can up the dose of Gabapentin sooner so that’s a relief. I have scans next week and then an appointment with him and we’ll go from there.

        I’m good though, still smiling and hey the sun just cam out 😉 xxx

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        1. The sun is a beautiful reminder of happy things, 🙂 I’m sorry about the pain, though. I hope the meds help… and I hope the appts go smoothly with lots of solutions. My chronic lung problems manifest very similarly (pain wise) to seronegative spondyloarthritis, so I understand the chest strain. *hugs* Rest up and please know that every day, I wish you pain-free days.:D

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          1. Thanks you 🙂 What a lovely message that has made me smile even more. I am sorry to hear about your chronic lung problems and hope that you have pain free days too. Thanks Rara, you are a star 😉

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  3. Hmmm…are you ready??
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    Oh meeeeeeeeeeeeee gaaaaaaaaaaawd where did you get that sloth on the Empire State Building picture??!! If I could put a tutu on her, she’ll look like Abigail…my inner sloth 😀
    LOL.

    Taking care of kids is an awful lot of work and people who raise them are definitely heroes! I’m glad I just have a Jack Russel that’s been trained to be lazy ..and I’m too old and single to have a kid ..lol

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    1. The source was unknown anywhere I could track it down, unfortunately! I saw it on t-shirts and other such things, though– which is pretty cool. 🙂

      And yep, caretakers of children are definitely heroes! 🙂 I’m quite happy with my cats. They’re more than enough work for me. 😀

      Also– just for you…

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      1. O.O…really?

        Awww…look it’s Abigail taking a nap on the Empire State Building!!!

        and

        Wow….how did you *do* that so fast?!

        and

        THANK YOU!!! 😀 That’s so sweet of you!!

        Yay!! 😀

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    1. Haha, yes! Back to … well, anything else. 😀 I love the kiddies, but the idea of doing this for a living… *melts* I wouldn’t survive, haha! 😀

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  4. I agree, some bloggers are just too amazing, dedicated and determined. I work 2 extra hours a day and I don’t blog and caffeine doesn’t do a thing to me, but then neither does valium.

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    1. I’m pretty sensitive to most drugs, though it takes a goodly amount of caffeine to have any effect so it’s the exception. Valium would knock me out for a week– I even splice my Tylenol kids-strength tablets into two or three before taking them for headaches. 🙂

      And yep, I am awed by what people accomplish! 😀 Like you– with all the outside world stuff and travel and running– you must be away from the computer most of the time, when does blogging happen?! 🙂

      Thanks for reading!

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      1. I consider that post like the ones I put out require little work. Post like yours are much more elaborated, you actually got put the thinking cap on and write.
        I often write when I’m on the train or plain, or waiting for flight and leave the comments for when I actually have time to sit and read. I think the most “time consuming” but totally worthy part of blogging is the commenting and getting back to people. I seriously admire people with 3 million followers that get back to each and every comment. I’d go crazy.

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  5. This post gave me a good laugh! I especially love the chicken! And since you asked us readers to ask you a question, I do have a question to ask: are you engaged in paid blogging, or do you do it as a hobby? I was just curious because I’ve heard people can make money off of their blogs, and you have so much knowledge about the blogging world as well as computer-related things to the degree where it looks very professional. Keep up the great and humorous posts, Rara!

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    1. 😀 Thanks, Jenny!

      Nope, blogging is 100% a hobby for me. 🙂 The professionalism (thank you!) is do to many years in marketing and internet architecture.

      I think making blogging into something that could equal or exceed my existing income is a bit of a pipe dream, especially in regards to the non-timely, non-product-center blogging I do. Ads might be able to offset life expenses a small bit, but not the type that WordPress.com allows– like paid ad spots that you’ll often see on Blogspot blogs. Of course, I’ve managed ads before and it’s nearly a full time job in and of itself. There’s the possibility of fame leading to income— book sales, paid speaking, etc– but that’s not for me, even if it were a likely possibility. And lastly, there’s using your blog as a resume for writing which could lead to paid jobs– but that’s also not really the direction I want to go with my life, even if it were a likely possibility. I like what I do in real life, and until I can’t anymore… I will enjoy the stress-free hobby-ness of all my hobbies, 😀

      That was a great question, Jenn– it got me thinking. 😀 Thanks for reading!

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  6. Welcome to my world. I am surrounded by children for at least 9 to 11 hours a day. I don’t know any songs that adults listen to, and I catch myself chanting finger plays even during my off time. But, I DO have coffee. Every single day. I’m too tired to think of a question right now, but thank you for the wonderful post.

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    1. 11 hours a day… yep, I’d melt. 😀 It takes a stronger soul than I to do such work and still be able to even read– and I salute you! 🙂 Thank you for stopping by!

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  7. I lived through raising 4 kids — I’m not sure how. That is the question, but there is no known answer. I did it without coffee, but on an average of one caffeinated diet soda per day. I can relate to your fatigue. That part I remember well. Like the time I fell asleep next to the dirty diaper, and the newly-diapered toddler ventured over to the neighbor’s party wearing nothing but that clean diaper. People thought I had lost my mind. And indeed I had. Under the legos, or laundry, or maybe behind all that stuff under the bed. Let me leave you with this one ray of hope. I always thought babysitting was much harder than parenting. As a parent, I say THANK YOU for giving us a much needed break and time to find the mind we thought we had lost!

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    1. 🙂 Aww, what a story! But you survived wonderfully, so yay, 😀 Your logic makes sense… since I know babysitting for strangers is way harder than watching my nieces– so probably being their parents would be a smidge easier. Assuming I was rested, of course. 😀

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  8. This is exactly how I feel every time I watch my niece and nephew – and they are also well-behaved children! My sister not only watches them full time, she also has a blog AND an etsy shop for which she is constantly creating new items to sell, AND she helps her husband with his work. amazing.

    And a question for you: Are you going to blog about your “solution for solving the way people think about e-books”?

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    1. That’s crazy! That’s like my sis. I think of my mom raising 6 of us, while traveling to speak internationally, and teaching full time and running businesses with my dad as a hobby… eeps. I’ll take my life with a side of simple, thank you.

      And yes! The e-book solution will be posted about on TheQueenCreative.com, but it’s really more complex than my normal solutionizing– as you’d imagine– a lot of “just the right” people are needed. I think it’d work, though. 🙂 I’ve been testing it out all day– mentioning it to “regular readers” as if it was already in motion, and they seem excited to download an indie author ebook– even handing me their ipads and asking me to do it for them immediately. 🙂

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    1. 😀 You are definitely a hero, Anyes! If you ever need a reminder of that, stop on by and I’ll happily remind you. 🙂 And thank you for the kind words!!

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  9. I am reading this on the morning after a night on call, while I drink my coffee trying to procrastinate going to change into my “dressy” clothes to go to clinic in an hour. I just want to go home and go to bed because 5pm swimming lesson sneak up fast whn you’ve had no sleep… And let’s face it, swimming lessons with my kids is no vacation. In short, this post is just what I needed to read this morning. Thanks. I’m glad someone can point Bill Murray’s finger at me and say something flattering…

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  10. Hahaha… my daughter does not understand why I don’t want to keep my granddaughter at least two or three days a week. Getting through one makes me feel a hundred years old.

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  11. One question. If you’re ever in STL, will you let me buy you a cup of coffee?
    OK. That wasn’t really a question.
    We own a café.
    I insist that you let us caffeinate you.
    And feed you.
    If ever.
    It’s on the house.
    🙂

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    1. I would looooove to have a coffee with you! 🙂 I’m not much of a traveler, but I promise that if I ever end up that way– you’re on the list of folk to visit. 😀 And, of course, if you’re ever in Southern California… just pop on by. I promise there’s usually caffeine aplenty ’round here. 😀

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  12. So, Rara, here are my questions:
    1. When will you sprout a baby of your own? Little Raras would be just adorable running around the blogosphere. You’d probably make a wonderful funny totally engaged but not helicopterish parent. And your saintly husband would be the doting parent who will create a book series on the adventures of Rara and the offsprings!
    2. Where do you get these great images? I love them!

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    1. (1) No kids planned (or hoped for) — I’m quite content with the bevy of little ones in my life, without making any of my own. 🙂 (2) I regularly stroll through Google images for images with unknown sources, or public domain/product images, or images that link back to small shops or blogs of any size that I can help promote. Then I save them in a file with notes, and use as needed! 😀

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  13. So, I don’t drink coffee or pop any caffeine drinks and I’m an only child, so I guess I can’t relate to caffeine withdrawals or nieces, but I can imagine that spending the day with a bunch of energetic nieces without caffeine can be a killer. Possibly you need to make up a more useful word like “uslurp”; expropriating a niece’s slurpie for yourself. Just encourage them to do that mix of pops including coke; all the better for you. 🙂

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  14. Haha. I’ve been worried I’m too tired to blog but it’s because of the babysitting. Is that it? Nowadays it’s just after school because they’re both in school but I’m still beat after those two hours and at 6 and 9 they are mostly well-behaved.
    Can you imagine having to cook, clean, do laundry, look after the little ones, find time to go to the bathroom (yourself or by yourself), you would find time to blog or even find time to go to the bathroom?

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    1. I have a knack with time management, and I’d like to think I’d manage– but I don’t know. With unscheduled baby-sitting as it is, I’m knocked flat. It’s the little things like eating standing up. 🙂 All I know is, I’m in awe of caretakers who do this regularly. I salute you! 😀

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  15. I laughed through the whole post. Not at you, but because I understand exactly how you’re feeling. And because Sloth Kong.

    I hope the coffee does the trick. Happy Friday. 🙂

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  16. Oh my goodness, and I thought watching one little niece was exhausting. But I don’t have *too* much sympathy, because for whatever reason I’m hypersensitive to caffeine, and am incapable of drinking coffee, so I don’t even know what it’s like to actually have that energy in the first place. 😀 (I’m kidding. I do have sympathy. Watching kids is draining. *pat pat* Get some rest after your coffee.)
    My questions: what’s the best part of watching your nieces? What’s the worst?
    Also, I loved the memes. xD I was giggling through this whole post.

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    1. Many of my friends are hyper-sensitive to caffeine, so I understand even if I don’t really experience it, ha! 🙂 The best (and worst) part of watching my nieces is realizing how much of my personality stems from my family upbringing. They’re so much like me. It’s either frightening and wondrous, depending on my mood.

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        1. It’s so strange! Yesterday, my niece said, “Your shadow looks like a monster eating a pancake.” and I thought- “Oi vey. Wait till you get older, and you’ll probably write a blog about that. ;)”

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          1. Hahaha well if that isn’t the cutest thing ever. 😀 I’m sure you’re going to have manymanymany more babysitting adventures with those two. Hopefully with caffeine for the next few go-arounds?

            My niece is pretty much my polar opposite — outgoing, energetic, and very, very vocal about what she wants. She’s also two though, so I guess that makes sense.

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                  1. Bahaha that sounds about right! 😀 Good choice, too — Bohemian Rhapsody is the best choice to rock out to!
                    I helped my niece learn how to (sort of) swing dance, and then played “superhero”, which consisted of running around the apartment with a blanket tied like a cape. It got to the point where she would bring me her blanket and go “whoosh!” That was pretty much my entire summer.

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    1. Haha, I know! I couldn’t get it out of my head once Shree mentioned it… I’m glad I was able to tutu her properly. 😀 And yep, the original image is unsourced and the tutu was an add-on, so feel free to use it however you’d like. 🙂

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  17. I think you should look for sugar free chocolate, pretty sure coco beans are similar to java beans, though there isn’t all that caffeine, it should still help take the edge off.

    ECHO ECHO

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    1. 😀 Raising our future constitutes a “reason”, not just an “excuse”, so I think you’re golden! 🙂 As I said in my post, I’m impressed that you ever get the chance to blog– you’re a superstar!

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  18. Kids are great! When you have your own around every single minute every day, you really get used to it. You organize yourself better and you manage to find some time. It’s just a matter of practice.

    By the way congratulations for being freshly pressed for the fourth time. You are awesome.

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    1. Thank you, Dirk– it’s an honor to be FP’d, and I think that it being something I was so nervous about makes me feel a little braver today than I did yesterday. So yay! 😀

      I like your mentality. I tend to practice that in all things– add something new, reorganize life better, and find the time you need. I’d like to think I’d do that if I had kids full-time. They’re pretty wonderful little creatures, but they addle my brains! 🙂

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    1. I haven’t been able to work with JS almost all year! All my projects have taken me down another path. I have started with a series of explanations/tutorials for mochikit for a friend who needs a skinny java solution, so at the moment, that’s the only JS in my world. 🙂 What about you??

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  19. Haha adorable– I totally get this. I don’t understand how people with children manage to do ANYTHING. I can barely refill my dog’s water bowl in a timely manner.

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    1. If my cats depended on me for water, well… let’s just say I’m glad my husband is good with that sort of thing, ha! 😀 I’ve yet to forget to feed a kid when I’m watching them, though… so I guess that’s a bonus, haha! 😀 Thanks for reading!

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      1. Topics, how did you figure out what would be interesting to write about? And incidentally, congratulations on the success of your blog!!!

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        1. Oh man, that’s a tough one. I don’t even really know what’s interesting to write about now. I just write about anything that passes through my mind. My categories are the same as they were the first month of my blog– just consolidated a bit– because they comprise of the stuff I’d mostly likely talk about in person, minus business/web expertise. I write about stuff I know like the back of my hand so that preliminary research is mild.

          Instead of topic, I focus more heavily on voice– no matter what I write about, I want it to sound like I’m talking to you over coffee– honest, even if it doesn’t paint me in the best light, and ridiculous, because I enjoy the absurd.

          🙂 That almost made sense, but I’m sure if it answered your question, ha! 😀

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          1. It made a lot of sense! And thank you for sharing that with me. And actuallyI can see why it works, i do feel like you are talking to me over a cup of coffee 🙂

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    1. That’s true about most things– time folds around life, so I can see how it would all work out. With coffee, of course. I’d never make that mistake again. 😉 Thanks for reading, and being awesome!

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  20. I also salute blogging parents. I am a parent, but all my kids are grown up & living on their own. I’m having trouble enough keeping up with blogging now Kelvin is home from work. I try to blog – he wants to talk or ask me questions. I try to read blogs – he puts on the TV & starts watching shows that somehow hook me in. I feel like I’m in a race to keep up & he’s pulling me farther & farther from the finish line.

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  21. Question? No can do. But, questions? Sure, I’ve got lots of questions: Did you get your coffee? Haven’t you babysat and blogged before? Is there a badge or something that goes with being amazing? Not that I deserve it, because I definitely cheat. Why is the sky blue? Do you subscribe to the theory that black is all colors or none? Do you watch the Big Bang Theory? That’s all I’ve got for now.
    Thanks for the laughs! 😀

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    1. I did get my coffee. I always babysit & blog, but this is the first time I ever babysat without coffee– eek! 🙂 There should totally be a badge, but I don’t know what to call it– and of course you deserve it. 🙂 The sky is blue because of the scattering of the sun’s natural blue light. I am more scientist than I am artist, so black is the absence of colors– though I know better than to say that to Dave. 😀 I watch the BBT when someone tells me something awesomely geeky happened on it, but not otherwise, because I very often feel like it’s making fun of me or friends that I’ve had… so it depends on my mood. 😀

      Thanks for reading! And for being awesome!

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      1. Aw, I don’t think BBT is making fun of anyone… I think it’s putting geeks and nerds on a pedastal. I love the episodes where they spout some geeky fact and I yell at the screen the answer/solution at the same time they are coming up with it.

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          1. I started watching this show late, and was hooked immediately. Once the Queen started being home more, after the arrival of the prince, I got her hooked on it too. It’s a kingdom favorite.

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  22. I say that the babysitting opened up a d-Raw-er-ful of great posting ideas. Kids will never leave one with writers’ block. So when will your egg hatch? LOL

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  23. I salute you, rara – for writing such amazing, real posts and then replying to every comment, it is what i call commitment. having a full fledged family ( teenage daughter, pre teen son and of course a husband and a tech job) sometimes kicks in wonderful ideas but i am never close to a computer or phone at those times and grey matter sucks it all up when I get ready to write down. The only consolation is that I feel I can do better because my best idea is lost somewhere in the mind-o-sphere and will gravitate to my fingers someday. Great Post!

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  24. Thanks for giving us parent bloggers some props, but I say kudos to anyone who finds time to blog and blog WELL. For most of us, this isn’t our job…or something for which we are paid. And people are busy with so many things. If it’s not kids, it’s work…or school, or volunteering, or maintaining relationships, or laundry, or grocery shopping, or paying bills, or whatever. My kids may make it harder to find the time and energy to blog, but the flip side is that they provide me with so much to actually blog about. And bonus points to you for the Fraggle Rock reference!

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  25. Question, mmmm… What do you think would happen if you went without coffee for a week? Are you tempted to try, in the spirit of science or adventure or creativity..? You could put your written hypothesis in a sealed envelope (or, you know, post it here for us all to read) then go COLD TURKEY and see what came to pass.
    Um. If you do decide it’s an experiment you can’t resist, bear in mind that if you disappeared from the blogosphere for more than a week, I’d be consumed with worry and guilt 🙂

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  26. Love the empathy here, Rara. Try adding on a disgruntled spouse and you can begin to see why I haven’t been blogging much lately. 😦
    Your sister must have appreciated the break. {{{Hugs}}} Kozo

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  27. How many silly faces did you have to make to keep the mood happy?

    Lol! I’m working at a childcare now and just easing back into blogging/writing. I know how you feel! Got home last night and gave in to anime and brainlessness. I’d never attempt either blogging or watching children without coffee though, so kudos to you!

    Though I’m tempted to draw a parallel between driving drunk and watching children without drinking caffeine. There’s a PSA in there somewhere …

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